I started this process over a year ago. I thought about donating my eggs many months before I took any action. After seeing people I care about struggle with getting pregnant and wanting a baby so badly, I figured if I have good eggs, why not donate them? I'm not using them. At this point in my life I have no desire to have children. I can't imagine wanting something so badly and not being able to have it. The people that decide to use an egg donor must be serious about having children because it is a long and expensive process. I'm not sure if I'll ever have children and if I can offer that I'm happy to give that gift to someone.
I have had many questions regarding my decision to donate my eggs. Here are some of the questions and my answers to them.
Won't you feel weird knowing you have a child out there and you dont know?
No. It's not my child. Yes, biologically I would be considered the child's mother, but not their parent. Parents are far more important to children. I would not and could not ever even use the term biological mother, I am simply an egg donor. The woman who carries this child is the mother. She will give birth, care for the child, be there for all the ups and downs.
What if in two years you ran into a couple with a child that looks like you and they approach you, to ask if you were a donor and it ends up being the couple and their child?
That experience would make it all worth while for me. To see the happy family that I had a small part in creating. That would be amazing.
Won't you wonder about the kid, what it looks like, where it is, who the family is?
Maybe. But I know it'll just be a thought that makes me smile knowing I helped create a bundle of joy for a loving family. I don't believe anyone would go through this process if they didn't have a lot of love to give.
Basically, I'm more than happy to do this and I feel really good about it. I haven't done too many 'great' things in my life yet and this is my first step to doing 'great' things.
